Just a place for me to write down some thoughts and maybe get some feedback... maybe not.
Why should it have occurred to you that Edwards might not be "cheating"? He's a politician, isn't he? Take a look around. Politician = dishonest; unscrupulous; unethical; untrustworthy; etc. Evidently, this is the way we want it.
I just saw a clip of his interview with someone from NBC. He had such a smug look on his face. He called it poor judgment. Kind of the same feeling of watching Joel Osteen smile while his wife went to court. Yuck.
I am very, very sad about the whole thing. For the family... for the lost opportunities... for the ways in which this will obscure the message about wealth and poverty...
i'm with you - all men in power seem suspect now and i'm not sure when that tide turned, or if it's always been that way... is an affair always the Achille's heel?
I think the power goes to both heads - not to be crude. It is incredibly intoxicating and men in ministry have similar challenges.I know on some level personal chinks in the armor are not supposed to matter but when enough of a contingent votes for Bush 2 because at least they know he won't cause them to have to explain sexual positions to their children THEN it does put it on the level where I have to care.
I know exactly what you mean! My remark to spouse was not that Edwards had an affair, but that he'd been caught.I am angry. What a waste.
SB and I talked about it this a.m., and I recalled hearing Clinton tell Mara Liasson: I did not have sex with that woman! And I BELIEVED him, I was indignant for him.and then when it turned out he was lying...I was (really) devastated. Tears came to my eyes this a.m. as I remembered that. I feel the same way about Edwards...but not so much...because I didn't ever let myself trust him that much. I'm not surprised. I'm just disgusted.
Sadder still is that last night in the early hours I was awake and an American attending the Olympics was stabbed to death. The news channels all continued to rehash (replay) their John Edwards' coverage.Before I realized who I was watching I stopped startled to see a "reporter" from the National Enquirer being interviewed because apparantly they broke the news. Once I got over the shock, I checked the station - yep, Fox News.I fear for Elizabeth Edwards and the kids that the whole truth is not out yet (maybe she knows it, but still it hasn't gone public)and this is going to get a lot worse for them before it gets better.
It is so easy, when one is surrounded by people who think you are extraordinary, to be seduced by the power of that, by the sense that you are owed something more because you are special. I saw it time and time again in my work as a Congressional staff director and as a lobbyist. It is primarily a male phenomenon, albeit not exclusively. The other woman in the story invariably is deluded into believing that his specialness makes what they are doing something other than adultery. In the political world, it is rare for the wronged wife to kick the a**h**e to the curb...usually the wife "stands by her man" and he rarely truly understands the consequences of his actions. It is also rare for the wronged wife and the other woman to get anything out of the experience except shame and pain. The media - and we who are consumers of what the media puts out there - seem to love the "gotcha" stories. Would that we lived in a world where those in power didn't betray those who admire and love them. Would that the news would have no need to cover these stories. Would that we all cherished those we loved, instead of selfishly grabbing for our own satisfaction regardless of the consequences.I'm afraid it will never happen, though. Having been a wronged wife, all I can think of in this case is Elizabeth Edwards, a woman whom I admire greatly, and say a prayer for her.
Exactly what I thought. I was not the least bit surprised.
It is sad, isn't it? I thought of all the times my husband tried to tell me Edwards was nothing but a slick ambulance-chaser, and I didn't want to believe it. I do now.
I agree so much with mibi52. In the past, when I worked with even low level government officials, they really have this mindset of, "What are you going to do for me?" They really seem to feel a gross sense of entitlement - and this probably applies to all aspects of their lives. It's such a shame that we can probably never know who to trust.
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