Wednesday, July 04, 2007

My Theory

The symptoms of chronic depression may come and go, with periods of depression alternating with periods of no symptoms at all. Chronic depression usually begins gradually, with vague feelings of sadness that gradually build in intensity. The individual may begin to have difficulty sleeping, or want to sleep more than usual. He or she may experience changes in eating habits, feelings of hopelessness, low self-esteem, low energy levels, restlessness, loss of interest in normal activities, decreased sex drive, feelings of guilt for no reason, difficulty maintaining relationships, and difficulty concentrating. In severe cases, the individual may have thoughts of death, or may attempt suicide. People with chronic depression have at least two of these symptoms for a period of two years or more. People with chronic depression are generally gloomy and extremely critical of themselves and others. They are usually seen as extremely negative people, who seem to expect failure and take no pleasure in anything.

Please pray for TDH. He is lost and no one can help him but himself.

29 comments:

DogBlogger said...

Praying for him, too.

more cows than people said...

certainly praying for him too... for all involved.

Magdalene6127 said...

Will do, WS. And continued prayers for you as well. (o)

Mags

Cathy said...

Praying for him... and you..

Preacher Mom said...

Yesterday I was so angry with him. As the news has begun to sink in, I've become very sad for him, too. Yes, he needs our prayers just as you do. Just as everyone involved does. I am praying.

cheesehead said...

(o)

ppb said...

(o)

How is WS doing?

the tentmaker said...

WS, I am so sorry for you and what has happened in your life. My sense is that it is too early in your grief to begin the road to forgiveness. Of course, we are praying for all concerned, but my prayer for you is that you let yourself be nurtured. You have been betrayed and deeply hurt. Taking your focus off of nurturing that hurt too soon may have the effect of driving your true feelings underground because of what you percieve to be the "Christian" thing to do. There will be time for forgiveness when the dust has settled and you know, based on what is left, what you have to forgive.
(((WS)))

will smama said...

Thank you tentmaker. I have been through tragedy before and know exactly what my grief cycle is like. Right now I am in shock/get things done stage.

I am not trying to rush through any of it, including forgiveness.

I promise.

LadyBurg said...

I am praying.

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Tatusko Family said...

ditto to all of the above.

and now for my counselor's hat.... keep in mind that grief does not always behave the same way each time you experience it. you have had your share, i know. but be ok if it is different this time.

lovies

Iris said...

(o)

reverendmother said...

Will do.

Sometimes it helps me to be able to say "here are the extenuating circumstances" and get them out in the open. Doing that actually gives me *more* freedom to feel the shock/anger/grief. I'm not sure why that is, but I wonder if this post is like that.

At any rate, be good to you.

(The word verification on this was igrggh. Sounds like a fitting exclamation to me.)

ppb said...

I just wanted to clarify that my (o) was a blog stone, not a hug.

And in honor of your physical expression of friendly fondness preferences, I join Ladybird in offering you this:

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Oh, wait, I think you need two today, one for the other side:

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I'm hoping that there are fireworks tonight. I think loud and vibrant and unignorable sounds good right now.

RevRosa said...

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Just praying and imagining the Good Shepherd holding you all close...

Lorna (see through faith) said...

Right now I am in shock/get things done stage.

good :) It's important you know where you are ... and can recognise what you are doing and at least at some level why you are doing it.

Part of me just wants to swoop in - gather you and the boy - and cart you off to the beach ... book you in for a pedicure (isn't that what all fine rev gals do? Not that I have ever ... shame on me!) ...so that you can take care of yourself ...

but, taking care of yourself also includes exactly what you are doing now - working through the shock/get the necessary things done.

I'm sorry for - and will pray for - him especially that the depression will lift; but I'm also angry too. Nothing gives us the right to behave badly!

We all know hurt people hurt people ... but I'm sad that you have been hurt. and that's the truth!

((((YOU))))

cheesehead said...

Sigh...

Those of us who have been hurt by someone who is hurting know that this is a necessary step.

It just adds another layer to the grief, doesn't it?

praying...

Marie said...

I still have no words, but want to say I'm holding you and him and all of you in prayer.

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Linda said...

I'm praying...

Songbird said...

As am I.
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will smama said...

this is certainly a huggable moment. If you happen to be at the Atlanta gig, go ahead.

Mary Beth said...

My God.

I don't seem to have other words.

But all the prayers are there.

love

mid-life rookie said...

You wake up and it wasn't just a nightmare. It's still there, staring you in the face. And we are still here praying.

Towanda said...

Still praying, for all of you.

Be good to you. *[

Kathryn said...

Transatlantic hugs or whatever might possibly help...and many prayers for all concerned.

HeyJules said...

Been there, done that. My prayers are with him...

Diane said...

orayers go out...

Diane said...

I'm sorry. I can't type. but praying still...

zorra said...

Praying for all of you...