Saturday, July 21, 2007

At the Tipping Point

So the ride went great, and I'll fill everyone in on that soon enough. Thank you all for your sponsors and prayers.

I just have to tell you what happened after we got home.

To set the scene you must know that with everything else that is going on my Dad had to go to the ER today. The doctors think it was a bad reaction to a new blood pressure medication. He is staying overnight, but things looks good there. Really, he's fine.

I finally return home to over 500 people and their cars on my lawn and banjo-filled music that is not red. These concerts happen three times a summer.

The Boy is overwhelmed so we hunker down inside and I check email. There is one from a pastor in the area who says that she is not "mad or territorial" but noticed that I am doing a funeral for someone who was a member at her church. What is my connection?

I email her back a bit of the backstory and tell her that the deceased sisters asked me to do it. They didn't tell me of their sister's connection with this woman's church.

Well apparantly this other pastor is both mad and territorial because she responds:
"Should I perhaps have been contacted re. the funeral, as I am her
pastor, or was there some good pastoral reason for not doing so? In any case, I trust that the funeral will be an occasion of grace."

I explained to her again that when I asked the family did not mention her or her church's connection with their sister and then I added:
"Except for the swearing, most funerals I do are an occasion of grace."

I think we have found the proverbial straw.

27 comments:

RevRosa said...

You are one amazing woman. And the other pastor lady is really special. really, really, really special. keep on keepin on! We're all rooting for you!

St. Casserole said...

You know, our colleagues are just precious to us, aren't they?

will smama said...

thanks. please read that punchline as funny. that is how I meant it to be delivered. This woman has no sense of humor though. none.

We once showed up early for a clergy lunch and after 5 minutes of attempted small talk we just sat quietly playing with our straws and drinks.

Songbird said...

If the deceased sisters of this woman knew how to contact you, I think the other pastor ought to back off in view of the special powers involved.

Heehee.

will smama said...

et tu, songbird?

Yes. I saw that, but decided to roll with it... in the grave I guess.

Songbird said...

I just loved the image of sisters already beyond the veil contacting you. I'm in a Harry Potter state of mind.

cheesehead said...

I just think you are awesome. In a barroom brawl, I'm on your side!

Teri said...

I wonder where said "pastor" was when the woman died? Why was she not already in contact with the family?

Just sayin'.

I cannot believe how many things you can deal with at one time--you're one incredible woman.

Listing Straight said...

And why is she talking to you instead of the family?

What did she expect you to do?

And like ANY of us WANTS to do a funeral.

Puhleeze.

Dear Pastor Bigger-Issues-Than,
I appreciate your frustration, but please take your concerns to the family. I can only make the best decision possible with the information given.

identitymixed said...

I often curse at funerals. But then I often curse at weddings as well.

Singing Owl said...

I'm so glad the session was gracious, and that the letter is written. As for the straw....well...yeah.

I'll be praying for you in the a.m. And I'm praying for TDH as well--and the boy, Lord bless and comfort him! I hope TDH is as committed to the marriage as you are.

((((WS))))

ppb said...

Okay, I can't stand it. Is the woman in question one of the only women in the Presbytery who was there back when I was there (you know, when dinosaurs roamed the earth freely)? The one who announced, when I showed up to a COPM meeting late, "well now that the youth group is here..."?

Ah, I'm a blogging gossip.

And I'm with Listing. Very few of us are actually begging to do funerals so much that we're stealing them from others...

will smama said...

sorry ppb, but it's the local lutheran pastor.

were the initials of the women you are describing 'LH'?

ppb said...

No, despite living in the same town as LH, I had very little contact with her--more with her spouse. No, the one I had in mind would have the first initial of K, and now I'm forgetting her last name, but not her collar, worn for every COPM meeting, just in case the youth group forgot she was ordained.

will smama said...

lol. Only the ones who wore them in seminary could top that.
Dang but that would annoy me.

Serena said...

What Teri said ... and lol at you and ppb and the collar conversation. Blessings tomorrow.

Kathryn said...

Oh...honestly. I wish I could say it was beyond belief, but sadly...
I think another ]* might be in order, and Sunday blessings too.

Gord said...

Well I find that at most funerals these days they starting eating lunch without waiting for grace {grin}.

Seriously, her argument is with the family, not with you. ANd her timing is atrocious. At least ait until aftr the service. Or ask if there was some way she could assist (threrby breaking down walls and making a better impression on everyone).

LadyBurg said...

Let me at her. I'll take her!

Seriously, if you are looking for more work as a pastor, you have issues. She needs to chill and leave my friend alone before I kick her little rear end. Don't mess with me or my friend Will smama!

Sue said...

I agree with the others - her argument is with the family, not with you.

I love your response to her. You rock.

Gail said...

Ok you are a/ on my prayer list near the top, actually b/ make me laugh myself silly but not at what you are going through at the moment...and your Lutheran friend (she of the territory that is not actually hers) I'm a Lutheran pastor, and I know this woman or many like her. Bless you for doing a funeral under such circumstances..and blessyou and TDH and Boy as you walk through this (these????) And keep laughing...we all need you. Gail

Lorna said...

let's focus on the good stuff eh?... the cycling. Well done :)

Diane said...

what the others have said, it's the family this pastor needs to be mad at.

Pink Shoes said...

Oh, dear. Let me apologize on behalf of Lutherans everywhere. And let me pray that the rest of us aren't nearly that, well, that.

zorra said...

Well, bless her heart.

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Towanda said...

Sheesh! People!

I hope your day has gone as well as one could hope. Peace.

Presbyterian Gal said...

AhHahahahahahahahaha!!!

The fact of this "lady pastor's" calling you and not the family speaks to the efficacy of her abilities, I must say. *ahem*.

And Songbird covered the miracle of the "deceased sisters". (hee hee)

And finally, will you PLEASE do my funeral? WITH swearing? It will totally rock. I just know it...